Is Staying In Your Comfort Zone Holding You Back?
We’ve heard a lot about getting out of our comfort zone. But have you ever thought about why you should? After all, our comfort zone is where we feel in control and safe. It’s where we can predict what will happen and how we will feel. There won’t be any surprises, that we can’t deal with.
So why would you feel compelled or even want to get out of your comfort zone? You need to do it because getting out of your comfort zone is the key to your personal growth and happiness. Stepping out of that zone helps you build up your self-confidence and the way you view yourself.
Is being there holding you back for living a fulfilled life and growing in our career?
The answer is yes. Being in your comfort zone and staying there is keeping you from realizing and achieving what you desire. Staying safely within your comfort zone keeps you from being challenged and you don’t have to rise to any new occasions.
Here are 3 ways of staying in your comfort zone is holding you back.
It’s keeping you from growing personally. When you are afraid of something, staying in your comfort zone keeps you from facing that fear. Then you suffer from it forever or until you do face it. You stay away from situations that would put you in a position of having to face the fear in order to overcome it.
For example, your fear of public speaking keeps you from taking a job that requires you to speak in front of others, even though it’s a step up on your career ladder.
You comfort zone is keeping you from being happy. Maybe you struggle with self-confidence and self-esteem issues. These problems can grow unless you take steps outside your comfort zone to begin addressing them. Stepping outside your comfort zone helps you build confidence in your self and see yourself in a better light.
When you are confident and have good self-esteem, you are happier. For example, if you’re not confident in your abilities, you tend to stay in your comfort zone instead of trying something new. This drags down your confidence making you feel less competent and making you unhappy.
Staying in your comfort zone can make you feel trapped and unhealthy. Often our comfort zone keeps us doing bad habits out of fear. You might want to be more active, run a marathon, feel fewer aches and pains and go on adventures. But to do any of these things means doing something that is outside your comfort zone.
For example, you want to run a short marathon. It’s always been a dream of yours, but you procrastinate and make excuses why you can’t. You’re too out of shape. You don’t have time. You’re too old. But the real reason is that you are afraid to get out of your comfort zone and begin training with a trainer. As a result, you continue to eat unhealthily, gain weight, lose muscle tone and put your dream on the back burner until eventually, you’re health becomes a problem.
When we stay in our comfort zone, we are holding ourselves back from living a life we love, from being happy and from growing. We end up letting our fears rule and settling for mediocrity.
Did you know that EFT aka Tapping can help hugely with this?
What is Tapping?
Tapping, also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), is a powerful stress relief technique. Tapping is based on the combined principles of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology.
Studies have shown that Tapping decreases cortisol (often called the stress hormone) in your body. The World Health Organization has announced that stress is the health epidemic of the 21st century.
This is because stress is linked to anxiety, weight gain, sleep problems, lack of motivation, chronic pain, stomach issues, and depression. Tapping is proven to reduce stress, lower cortisol, improve sleep, reduce anxiety, relieve pain, increase productivity, and so much more!
Stress is also detrimental to your immune system because when you’re stressed, your immune system’s ability to fight off antigens is reduced, and you are more susceptible to infections. Tapping helps to lower stress, and in turn, allows your immune system to do its work!
So How Does It All Work?
The basic Tapping technique requires you to focus on a negative emotion at hand. This can be a fear, a worry, or any unresolved problem. While maintaining your mental focus on this issue, you use your fingertips to tap 5-7 times on 9 specific meridian points of the body (more specific information on this below).
Tapping on meridian points sends a calming signal to the brain, letting your brain know it’s safe to relax. So, for example, when you receive bad news from your boss or you begin to worry about future events, it triggers a part of your brain called the amygdala.
When you think of the amygdala, one word should come to mind:
This part of the brain is responsible for triggering the stress response in our bodies, releasing stress-related hormones into the bloodstream. Also popularly known as the fight-or-flight response, it is the body’s natural reaction to a perceived threat.
The problem is, we tend to have our amygdala in charge way more often than we want.
The amygdala’s response is effective when you’re faced with real-life danger but damaging when you want to feel calm and confident during a high-stakes meeting. And most of the time when this is happening in your body, you aren’t experiencing the fight-or-flight (or freeze) response for the same reason that our ancestors did long ago were. There is no tiger in the woods, but the response in your body is still the same.
Tapping on these meridian points (the same used in acupressure) while you think about what is causing you stress helps your mind understand that you are not in any physical danger and it is safe to relax, reducing cortisol levels.
Tapping gives you the opportunity to bring your life back into balance and reduce stress around your relationships, finances, weight, pain, fears, and so much more.
So, if you want to create your best life and step out of your comfort zone then EFT can seriously help you.
If you want to discuss this in more detail with me on a one to one basis you can contact me by email at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can book a quick clarity call to see if working with me is a good match for you. I offer EFT Tapping Sessions along with coaching.
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Hope to hear from you.
Love Trudy xox
What is an AURA?
First things first. A basic answer is that the aura is a living energy field that surrounds all living creatures. We are all made up of energy. Even though your body feels solid it is actually made of energy waves vibrating in a certain way. Everything we see and feel is made of energy and molecules clustering together to create their unique pattern that you can identify. Our auras reflect who we are and they extend out from the body. Everybody is different and there is no real set length that they extend. It can be anything between 1 and 5 feet. This can also depend upon our mood, our state of mind etc.
As you know, the aura surrounds everyone and this energy field is like a magnet. It can pick up the vibrational energies that are floating around everywhere you go.
Your vitality and wellbeing depend on maintaining a healthy aura. Ill-health, emotional upset and turmoil as well as food, drink, any drugs, medicinal or otherwise, our environment, all affect the aura.
Now you can see why it is important to keep your aura in tip-top condition. One of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to cleanse our auras regularly. This will help keep out negative effects from our environment and other people. I use an essence called Astral Clear and I put a few drops on the palms of my hands and then smooth from the top of my head right down my body until I get to my feet, I smooth and ‘fluff’ my aura every morning. (sounds like I’m talking about a cushion doesn’t it saying I fluff my aura, but I can’t think of a better way of explaining it unless you saw me do an actual demonstration of it.
Now you’ve read about what the aura is you’ll probably want to have a go at feeling the aura. It is quite easy to feel the aura and most people are really surprised at how easy it can be felt. Firstly, you need to find a willing person to practice on.
Ask them to sit on a chair where you can stand behind them.
Do you remember the energy exercise I told you about where you rub your hands together and then slowly (palms in front of you, facing each other (as if you were going to clap) then slowly push your hands together and you will find a resistance, that’s energy and you’re feeling energy. It is the same with the aura, rub your hands together and do as I said above, stand behind a person who’s sat down and go above their head and slowly lower your hands until you feel ‘a resistance’ as I call it.
Hold your hands about two feet over the top of their head, close your eyes and slowly allow your hands to move down towards the top of their head until you find contact with their aura. In most cases, this will be between 2 – 6 inches from the top of their head.
The aura will feel different to everyone, however, generally, you will know when you have found the aura as you will be able to feel one or more of the following: – tingling sensation – coolness – warmth – resistance – a rush of air, for me, it’s the ‘resistance’ feeling as that’s how I feel the energy a lot of the time.
Once you have found the aura over the top of the head keep your hands so they are just in contact with it then slowly see if you can follow from the top of the head down the side of the head and over the shoulders. That’s all there is to it! Simples!!
It may take some practice, the same as anything else, but once you’ve done it once you’ll find it easy to do again. Once you feel confident enough, try to find different people to practice on.
You will feel the difference in other people’s aura which all change with how they are feeling health-wise and emotionally etc.
METHODS FOR READING AURAS
There are various different methods. I will give you a couple to get you started and see if they suit you. Feel free to find your own unique way.
SEEING THE AURA FROM YOUR FINGERTIPS
Although it might take a bit of practice, once you get the hang of it you will be able to see the aura fairly easily. I am not talking about picking up the sensations with psychic senses, but actually seeing with your own physical eyes.
Some people can sense the auras rather than see them, others can feel them as heat or cold or buzzing sensations rather than see them (with me it’s the resistance I’ve told you about.
First, make yourself nice and comfortable and relaxed. Try to find a room that is dimly lit, but not dark. Bringing your index fingers together almost but not quite touching. Now, look at the space between the fingers. While you do this allow your eyes to defocus slightly so you are not looking at it in a hard way. In a short space of time, you will be able to see a light hazy mist going from one finger to the other. Just practice this on yourself for a while so that you are confident you can see the most/energy. You are then ready to try to see other people’s auras. Try practising on anyone that will let you!
SEEING ANOTHER PERSON’S AURA
To work with another person you will need to be about 6 feet away from them. It is usually better if you can manage to have them with a neutral coloured background – grey or black is best but cream can work too. Just as long as the colour is not vibrant. Again the room needs to be dimly lit. This is not for any mystical reason at all. It is simply because it takes away distractions whilst you are learning. The energy is very subtle and until you are more accomplished in seeing the aura the fewer distractions the better!
Again, defocus your eyes and look at your subject without staring.
It is best to look at the area around the head. Although if you have practised on yourself before this you should now be able to see the bluey/whitish outline around the whole body (the etheric aura).
Don’t’ worry if you can’t see it straight away – practice will help. This outline sometimes looks as if it is shimmering – much like looking at a road on a sunny day and you see a heat haze rising.
Many do not see it the first time if you look directly where it is. Then like magic, the aura will seem to appear. This can take from 10 seconds to 2 minutes. Once you see the aura try not to get too excited lol or blink – keep relaxed and don’t look directly at it or it will ‘disappear’.
Keep your eyes focussed. Practice and you’ll soon see it 🙂
After you have trained your eyes you can look directly at the aura without losing it. Once you can see the outline, keep looking in that disinterested way and you should see colours starting to build outwards from the etheric aura (emotional aura). If you concentrate on the edge of the etheric aura (the blue/white edge around the body), again eyes slightly out of focus, you should soon be able to make out colours of the emotional aura. As said before the depth or intensity of the aura very much depends upon the vitality of the person. Therefore, you could see anything from a couple of inches to a couple of feet.
Like everything else in life, your skill will improve with practice. If you watch people who do Facebook lives or online videos that is a really good way to see their aura, just let your eyes totally relax and glaze over and you’ll see the aura. I’ve only just started to see colour within the last few days. But I’m going to keep practising so I will be able to see colours fairly clearly from now on.
SEEING AURA AROUND PLANTS AND TREES
Relax in the same way you have done for seeing auras around yourself and others. Get a bowl of flowers or a plant. Gently gaze beyond the flowers or the tree with a soft gaze as before. The aura will soon be seen as energy.
If you can look at treetops this is also a good way to develop your skill.
WHY CAN’T I SEE THE AURA
For most people, it takes time and practice. There are a few that are able to see the aura very quickly but for the majority of people, it takes a bit longer. Initially, we try too hard to see the aura. This is one of the things that you should try to avoid. It is very difficult as I can remember how excited I was when first trying. However, the trick is to relax, more like daydreaming, rather than straining. Seeing the aura is a technique that can be learned by most people. It is not a gift to some select few and not to others. It is simply a matter of practice, practice, PRACTICE!!!!
I will tell you more about what the colours mean another time, first practice seeing the actual aura first and I’ll keep practising to see colours and we’ll take it from there.
Hope you’ve enjoyed today’s tip.
Love Trudy xox