3 SUPER EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH STRESS.
Today I want to talk about stress. We all get stressed from time to time but some people are far better at managing stress than others.
So, why do some people always seem to stay calm and collected whilst others seem to get really easily rattled and overwhelmed?
How you react to stress is dependent on a number of different factors. The world is experienced through our five senses; however, our individual experiences of the world differs from person to person.
Your interpretation of reality is a different version of reality to that of someone else. Your appraisal of the situation, that is, how well you think you can handle this situation, determines your stress production.
Stress results from initially doubting that your individual resources, skills and coping mechanisms will actually work, and hence, the situation is interpreted as stressful.
This means that you can change your interpretation of the world, and manage your mental state in order to feel good and decrease stressful events. So how do we do this?
Let’s focus on this line of thinking …
You can change your interpretation of the world in a few different ways.
By changing one of the following, you can decrease your experience of stress.
How you speak to yourself (your inner dialogue and that negative self-talk fairy that keeps saying unhelpful and unhealthy things to you, she’s there, chipping away at your psyche)
How you use your body (your body language ) so you can decrease your ‘experience of stress’ by changing what you focus on.
For example, if you find it difficult to fall asleep at night, (I’m using this example because I’ve struggled with insomnia for years), because you’ve got shed loads of shit whirling around your head, your mind is so full of thoughts and you start to focus on how little sleep you’ll get . Well instead of doing that, write down your thoughts instead.
Writing down your thoughts helps you move your focus from what’s inside your head onto the piece of paper, and you will find that it’s easier to relax once you’ve written that down what’s troubling you. Another way of changing your focus is to count sheep – you will move your focus from the lack of sleep you’re gonna get to woolly sheep. (and how cute are they?)
The third way is to relax one part of your body a time, (like in a guided meditation that starts from the crown of your head, and in turn, begins relaxing you all the way down to your toes)
This exercise changes your focus and increases your ability to relax, which then helps you with falling asleep.
Start to change your inner dialogue. Your inner dialogue is a constant presence, and it’s been estimated that you have around 60000 thoughts a day. Don’t be afraid to question this ‘inner dialogue’, (or mind chatter or monkey mind) as to why you have certain thoughts, and in what way these thoughts are helpful.
Your own thoughts can make you stressed, and by questioning your thoughts, you learn to see things from a different perspective.
For example, if you’ve been having thoughts such as
“I will never be able to finish everything that needs to be done today” you can question this.
“Who says I won’t be able to finish everything that needs to be done today?”
And just by thinking that, it makes it less of an issue.
As you learn to do this more often, you’ll learn to formulate better questions for what your inner self-talk is saying to you, and you’ll be able to focus on a more positive type of question and have better focus.
Also, if you constantly think about all the things you need to do, there’s an added risk of tensing up your body. Your body will then communicate ‘stress’ – Instead, if you stand up, stretch out, breathe in deeply, and expand your chest, this will send signals of energy and strength to your brain, which will make you feel less stressed and help you focus on what needs to be done.
The same strategy works if you feel a bit blue.
If you’re feeling blue or fed up, there is a risk of you lowering your head, collapsing your back, and focusing on your thoughts about ‘what’s wrong’ rather than trying to think of positive thoughts.
If this is how you feel, change your posture, stand up, and straighten your back.
This will break your thought pattern and make you feel stronger.
One of the best ways to change how you feel is to engage in a ‘physical activity’.
Think about how you feel after a workout session after a long day at work.
You may feel physically exhausted, but you no longer feel stressed, you feel more alert, and your thoughts and more focused on solutions and opportunities.
Do this exercise to become better at changing your mental thought processes by utilising the previously described strategies
Change your inner dialogue
Change your body language when experiencing daily stress
Notice and register changes to what you feel and experience. What happens in your body? What happens in your breathing? And what happens to the tension in your shoulders?
What works and what doesn’t what work for you?
Over time, you will notice, that you will become better at handling stress and that it will become easier to reduce your stress by applying the above strategies
So, change your focus and inner dialogue and body language.
If you do this exercise once a week for a couple of months, you’ll be creating a less stressful life yourself.
YOU have the ability to change how YOU react to stressful situations
This might not happen overnight, but if you practice changing your focus, you can become better at handling your reactions to your ‘perceived reality’.
There are a number of ways that this can be done as I have suggested in the three different tips and exercises.
Change your inner dialogue
Change your body language
I hope you find this useful if you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. And one more, really quick way, is to take some deep breaths, send your energy down to the ground out through the soles of your feet into the Earth (grounding) and thereby grounding your energy whilst you keep taking some slow deep breaths.
There are numerous benefits to the daily discipline of meditation, many of which the majority of people simply aren’t aware of. However, by spending some time every day in meditation, you’ll be surprised at just how much long term good it will do your entire mind, body and spiritual being.
Here are just 7 benefits of meditation.
1. Stress Reduction
One of the biggest and most obvious benefits of meditation is a reduction in stress. As you meditate, you actually begin to get control over your emotions which can reduce feelings of anxiety. Since there are a huge number of people that are currently using anti-anxiety medications and the number keeps going up, it’s clear that anxiety is something that needs to be addressed.
2. Make Better Choices
One thing that many people have found once they start meditating is that it encourages them to live a healthier life. Some people are able to quit smoking just by meditating, and others simply begin to crave more natural foods. Imagine how much healthier you could be if taking some time to meditate was all that it took to give you a desire to eat healthy.
3. Improved Concentration
This is something that has been studied in depth by some researchers, and it has been discovered that people who meditate are not only able to concentrate better, but they’re also able to multitask much more easily, which means getting a lot more done in a shorter amount of time. As meditating allows you to center yourself, you can better focus on everything you need to do.
For many people, it can be hard to accept themselves, whether it’s accepting who they are as a person or physical problems. But either way, meditation can help you accept yourself as you are. This can then make you a better person and allow you to more confidently share yourself with others, leading to deepening of relationships.
5. Be Happier
One study that looked closely at brain activity during meditation found that meditation decreased activity in the right side of the brain where negative emotions are formed while increasing activity in the left side where positive emotions are produced. So in addition to greater self-acceptance bringing more happiness, your actual brain chemistry changes to make you happier.
6. Be Healthier
Another physical change that happens in your body as you meditate is that blood pressure is lowered as nitric oxide is released, which increases blood circulation. In one study, 2/3 of participants were able to lower their blood pressure through meditation enough that they were able to stop taking blood pressure medicine. Other studies show that the immune system is also boosted by meditation.
7. Reduce Ageing
Although there’s no evidence that meditation can lengthen your life, it does keep your brain from ageing. In fact, a study done at Harvard University showed that those who meditate have larger quantities of brain cells and their brains actually physically stopped ageing. It’s uncertain exactly what causes this, but it’s clear that meditation has a profoundly positive impact on the brain.
Young woman having a reiki treatment in therapy room
You don’t have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body. ~ C.S. Lewis
The human body is made up of over 50 trillion cells. Each cell contains omniscient wisdom and is connected to the universe and every living thing within it. A good analogy is to think of the universe as a huge ocean of water. Every living thing within that ocean is like a tiny droplet. Together these droplets make up and are part of Reiki the universal life force.
Reiki is part of our genetic structure; an in built intelligence that energises the mind body and spirit. Reiki stimulates growth, health, life and healing. When it is freely allowed to flow around the body it can keep us alive and healthy for over one hundred and twenty years.
Unfortunately, bad habits and poor choices result in the flow of Reiki being stifled. It is important to note that Reiki cannot be destroyed. Even when we die and the life force leaves our body it continues to exist as part of the universe. Through neglect and ignorance we abuse this vital component of life.
When the mind body and spirit are in harmony the biological intelligence that governs the body’s resources and allows it to heal itself and function correctly are intensified. Reiki is the key that unlocks the body’s optimum capabilities. There are seven main energy centres in the body that control the flow of the universal life force. They are called the Chakra’s. Each chakra is responsible for supplying energy to specific parts of the body. When they are blocked or clogged the body becomes sick and the flow of energy is diluted.
A full Reiki treatment reopens the chakras and re-balances the flow of the universal life force around the body. A person will normally need four full treatments on four consecutive days to boost the flow of Reiki energy. This will stimulate the body’s immune system and natural healing abilities. Normally the body will begin by cleansing itself of toxins. As the poisons are removed, the body becomes re-balanced and the healing process can begin.
Many cultures have developed techniques and disciplines that stimulate the flow of KI energy around the body. However, Reiki is the easiest to learn and administer. The techniques are simple to master. The results are profound.
How Reiki Works – The 7 Major Chakra Points
The Crown Chakra (white or violet) is positioned on top of the head. It represents enlightenment, intuition and spiritual vision. Energy supplied to the pineal glands, upper brain and right eye.
The Third Eye Chakra (Indigo) is positioned in the middle of the forehead, just above the eyebrows. It represents psychic perception, telepathy and ESP. Energy supplied to the spine, lower brain, left eye, pituitary gland, nose ears and central nervous system.
The Throat Chakra (light blue) is positioned in the centre of the neck. It represents self-expression, emotions, communication and creativity. Energy supplied to the throat, thyroid gland, upper lungs, arms and digestive tract.
The Heart Chakra (rose and green) is positioned in the middle of the chest. It represents emotions, love, devotion, spiritual growth and compassion. Energy supplied to the heart, thymus gland, liver, lungs and the circulation system.
The Solar Plexus Chakra (yellow) is positioned just above the navel. It represents the centre of the body; food is assimilated, tuned into energy and distributed throughout the body. Energy supplied to the emotions, stomach, liver, digestion, gall bladder and the pancreas.
The Sacral Chakra (orange) is positioned just below the navel. It represents sexual energy, perceptions and the first impressions of people. Energy supplied to the reproductive organs, legs and the glands.
The Root Chakra (red) is positioned at the genitals. It represents life, physical vitality, birth and creation. Energy supplied to the spine, kidneys, bladder and the suprarenal glands.
Reiki is ever-present in our bodies. This means anyone can harness this profound inbuilt intelligent energy for healing.
However, without being attuned to the universal life force you will only be using about 10-20% of its capacity for healing.
Madam Takata explained it best when she described Reiki as being similar to radio waves. We cannot see them but we know they are everywhere around us. When we turn on a radio and tune into the radio waves we can pick up a signal. That signal is turned into a radio programme. Similarly, the universal life force is everywhere, although we cannot see it unless we use Kirlian photography.
When we are tuned into the energy by a Reiki Master we are able to harness Reiki to heal ourselves and others. This gift of healing remains with us for the rest of our lives. We can only lose it if we use it for negative or destructive purposes. Reiki is pure and it needs to be treated as such.
Reiki is channelled through the hands. When you place your hands on your own body or the body of another person for the purpose of healing you connect with the universal life force. The wisdom of Reiki then goes to work to bring about healing, balance and whatever is needed on a holistic level.
The best way to understand how Reiki works is to experience it.
God be in my head, and in my understanding.
God be in my eyes, and in my looking.
God be in my mouth, and in my speaking.
God be in my heart, and in my thinking.
God be at my end, and at my departing. – Anon
Are You An Empath?
I’ve been thinking what to write about for this blog so I thought a good place to start would be to talk about being an Empath and what it’s all about.
So what exactly is an Empath?
Have you ever wondered why people who are strangers or people you hardly know open up to you and share their most trusted thoughts? Do you have an instant connection with animals? Are you unable to watch violence, cruelty, or tragedy on television or in the movies because your soul just can’t bear it? Do you have an instant knowing about the character of the people you meet upon first meeting them? Are you highly spiritual and find the physical world and everything in it heavy? Are you often tired and have physical ailments that cannot be medically explained? If you answered, “yes” to any of these questions you may be an “Empath.
Empaths are people who are highly sensitive to the energy and the emotions of the people, animals, and sometimes even the spiritual imprints that exist around them. Do you ever walk into a building and pick up on the ‘negative vibes’ or the ‘energy’ of the building? Does this sometimes overwhelm you where you feel you have to get out of there? Do you pick up on people’s moods and feelings without them saying a word? Do you walk into a room and ‘feel the atmosphere’? If so you could be an Empath.
Just as with every other healthy minded individual, Empaths have the ability to empathise with whom they are interacting. We are able to relate to how others feel and understand what they are experiencing. What sets Empaths apart is our higher-than-average level of empathy, the ease at which we can connect to the feelings of others, and the range within which we can do it. And where others experience feelings of empathy that are cued by interacting with others, empaths do not always. We do not have to rely on the physical senses of sight, hearing, or touch, or clues from our interactions with others, to pick up on the emotions and energies around us. We can feel and internalise emotions from people near and far. I personally feel it can be a gift and a curse all in one. It’s important for Empaths to be fully grounded and protected spiritually at all times so you don’t ‘feel’ the pain of the world all the time. Can you relate to any of these feelings? If so it’s important that you also ground and protect yourself daily too. In my previous newsletter I talked about how to ground and protect yourself – you should do this on a daily basis. I also cut cords with everyone each night before I go to sleep. This isn’t a ‘bad’ thing and sometimes people ask why cut cords with people you love? What I do is ask and intend that I am cutting cords with all ‘that does not serve me for my highest and greatest good’ and by doing this I know only the right cords will be cut.
If you read my blogs on Grounding your energy & Protecting your energy, you will have even more insight as to how as an empath you can look after yourself.